I know quite a few individuals in my circle of friends who are very insecure about themselves. They try not to show it because they think it’s a sign of weakness. It is. But just because it is a sign of weakness, doesn’t mean that they should keep it hidden forever. Most people would try to fix insecurity by patching it up with different things such as talents, friends, relationships, popularity, fame, and money. None of these would ever successfully cure you of your insecurity.

For me, I’ve been struggling with it for nearly all my life. I’m very pleased to tell you that I have found the way to crack it. To deal with insecurity.

First of all, there are a few things you gotta understand:

• Insecurity is a form of identity crisis: “I don’t know who I am, without…”
• Dealing with insecurity means that you gotta understand that Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life.

So, how to deal with it?

Ask yourself, what do you feel most insecure about? Are you afraid, that someday when you change a bit of your personality, you’ll be left without friends? Are you afraid, that if you lost a particular talent, you won’t have the same measure of success you once did? Are you afraid that without your popularity with the opposite sex, you’re an ugly and unattractive person?

Once you figure that out, you’ll know why you feel insecure. I’ll tell you why. All these things – people, popularity, fame, talents, money, success – are temporal and changeable. They are mutable. They do not and will not last, ever. The sooner you understand that, the better. We crave for permanence, for a sense of belonging, for stability. That is our very nature. Despite everything, these are the things that we desire, and we look for solutions in all the wrong places. The only one who can give you that permanence, stability and sense of belonging is Christ. God. Jesus. He doesn’t change. He is immutable. And He loves you.

So, root your identity in Christ. What do I mean by that? Well, the reason it’s called the Good News (in my opinion) is partly because it gives us the security we have been looking for. Look at the Jews before the coming of Christ. They had to work for their salvation. They had to be nothing less than perfect to ensure their place in heaven. Look at what happened when Christ came – people constantly told that God loves them, no matter how ugly they think they look, no matter how imperfect they are. God loves them, and all they had to do was to love him back, and to show the rest of the world that God loves them too. I am secure in the knowledge that no matter how badly I mess up, as long as I look to God, and lean on His strength, and draw breath from His grace, I am saved. I am forever saved. My soul has found its home. So, by rooting your identity in Christ, you are basically admitting and acknowledging that you are and always will be a child of God, unless of course, you choose to give it up. Your birthright, just like what Esau did. You can do it, but why? What for? A fleeting moment’s worth of pleasure? It’s not worth it.

Think of all the promises you can claim to. Think of all the goodness you can do, freely. Think of all the people who will be saved  by the knowledge that God loves them. This is your birthright. Why, why should you give it up for temporal things?

When something threatens to shake my peace, I turn to Him. I know He’ll take care of it, just as He promised He would. In the meantime, I figure out how I can overcome it as well, and how I can teach others to overcome it. God’s plans for you are always wonderful, beyond your imagination. Beyond. It will be mindblowing, it will be fantastic. It will be uber awesome. He, the Creator of the universe, is asking you to trust him. Why won’t you?